Anyway, just wanted to throw that out there. The effort needed to piece this relationship back together is a lot and both parties would have to be invested. I asked my mother once what it took to stay married for 40 years and she said one word ''tolerance''. He has worked full time except for the year he stayed home with our third child, but when he works he takes care of his needs first and might help with some bills if he has any left over. And frankly, couples should take care of each other. So, yes, I believe that in some most? I always love to hear this one. As for finances, money isn't everything.
I guess I love her like a sister or friend or just care for her like one. If anything I applaud you for sticking around for as long as you have. Some even worry their spouse may harm him or herself. He could have left years ago but he loved her and tried to make it work. So as we become adults does this somehow magically change. I told her I loved her five days after I met her. A few years later after we got married she sent a fully closed picture to the guy when she was drunk again.
People born in 1900 expected to live until 50, in the 50s, they expected to live until 60, in the aughts, we now expect to live to 80 and beyond. But from the perspective of a kid that had to deal with that crap— get out now. I often wondered what had become of her. Think about when the novelty of this older man wears off for this girl. He was forced to marry another girl of same classes and i was sacked my his mum. I see my son suffering from us yelling at one another.
One thing is for certain: As long as you maintain a relationship with this other woman, it will be near impossible for you to reconnect with your wife. Then the guy becomes demonized for being selfish. Stay feeling sexy and in love. I am scared to leave, but I want to so bad. Using a lawyer who is all about meditation will not work. Both desperately unhappy, depressed, compensating for the vacuum through unproductive and unhealthy behaviours. Being bored is not a reason to break up your marriage.
I think children of happily divorced parents are much, much better off than children who have to witness their parents resent each other. I want out but am scared of finances. The ow or om is just a band-aid, a distraction. Look for cheap alternatives at the very least. Not reaching for your true potential as a man.
Perhaps you don't realize it, but you've stopped bringing your A-game to the marriage. Mainly, it falls on me. Ask yourself, have any of these big changes happened in your marriage? I have a year left in my masters program, and I plan to leave at that time. I needed to let him move on to the next chapter of his life. I had no clue what was going on until a month after he came back from Philippine.
Your kids probably already know about the tension in the house and will feel it is disrespectful of you and your wife to stay together just for them when, in the end, you'll only be modeling exactly how a relationship shouldn't work. I think he honestly believes that things weren't ever really that bad and that my mom has brainwashed me into thinking otherwise. Your responses are are like those of a child. So maybe the kids are better off but…. I was ready to fight the whole world for us two, even my family; however over time his behaviour made me lost that faith, and i felt safer at home, than I did moving in with him, which he was planning for us. No wonder he never had anything to say.
I understand to some degree as humans these are inevitable, but its catching yourself and fighting back. Final straw came 5 mths ago when he erupted like he normally does, slamming doors, shouting etc I asked him to move out for a week to give our girls and I space. People who are truly happy learn to let go of their attachments. I have been the main breadwinner since he moved back in. I remember feeling as if I had been punched in the stomach.
I was hoping that and other stuff could be used to prove her mental state turns on anyone on a dime and show that she is the violent one because when I got arrested she told the cop that she did attack me. There is some huge worries for me about the kids saftey. The way to identify it will be to see what meets that description at the date of death. How many times have we all heard that story? And when it does, it will throw everyone involved off kilter and into shock and confusion about how to proceed. Tell it like it really is.
But it took a couple years. Like an emotionless scary individual. The trick — the longer you pursue a relationship the harder and harder it gets to break it off. As I stated in a few different replies, Its like her inner bitch-o-meter lost numbers 1-7 and its stuck on either 8,9, or 10. I have faced some childhood hurts from my own parents divorce and worked with a therapist to heal those parts of myself — interestingly a mirror of what went on this past year.