Never had an affair until the current mistress. Trust God will see you through. If you lie to yourself about how you feel about these women then you will all suffer. An update on my situation — current lover has left his wife for his own reasons. Your last sentence condemning him is rather unproductive and ill-spirited. I have nothing bad to say about my wife, but im not happy.
People do crazy things when pushed past their emotional limit and do things that they normally wouldn't ever do. She is the mother of my kids, I love her for that, but not as a woman I dont desire her. She is the only sexual partner I have ever had in my life. Your wife will heal and your kids may end up better off in two happy homes than one miserable home. I am in a 3 way relationship with 2 people who are married. Two respondents said in effect Hey, you should work on getting your first wife excited about sex.
If you are willing to leave your mistress for your wife, do it now. See your marriage from a distance as well, and then see if you should go with the mistress or the wife, or maybe neither. If people get emotionally bruised, they will heal. There is a great difference between love and lust. Keep up the good work in helping others like myself.
You end up falling into a routine as does every relationship. If you ask how that happened? Because I promised myself not to leave my kids. Letting him eat his cake too. If you had a good relationship why ruin it with an affair? I'm still working on it, but I feel there is a good reason why most religions and most cultures warn us men to stick with the wife. The column will be back on September 20, but keep the letters coming because I'll read them all when I get back - refreshed by Boston seafood and, I hope, sun. I never saw it coming it was almost like one day I woke up and someone had swung a baseball bat at my face. Her primary focus is helping people to be more present in their lives, more engaged with their existence, and to face the world with courage.
The fact that you blew up your marriage for her isn't a reason to try to build a life on quicksand. You've already broke her heart once - and probably your sons too - so just leave her alone. The lack of attraction is not her weight problem either, I suspect. Yes, sadly your 'girl' will be hurt too but she took that chance when she got involved with a married man. I don't believe anymore in old school thinking, it is what leads to cheating and affairs. Did you feel guilty pretending to love your clueless wife while you just finished having a bout of illicit sex with your lover? My father was a good man, but he did not use his authority as a man to make my mom be his partner.
Pray psamls with a clean n forgiving heart yet hurt and the lady will never stay in nor replace you. Your wife already has custody of the kid as you see him twice a week. I think this happens more often in affairs where they stay in the marriage because of financial reasons and then think they can keep the other woman on the sidelines waiting around with empty hopes. Since you do not have the 8alls or the moral inclination to say that you messed up, you perhaps want us to tell you to go back home. Sorry you made a choice why do you want to hurt another woman - agreed she is the mistress but that does not make her any less a person that will not feel a break up.
They did exist, it wasn't my imagination was it? Let your ex and his new partner move on. Then what is you problem? The pain of loosing your wife and kids last for all your life including your oldest years when you need them. Name calling is not necessary. Guys, reasons why you should love your wives for better or worst. Life is not lived in ultimatums, although you word yourself as if it was.
Dude its time for you to grow up and realize the world don't revolve around you. Instead you chose to have an affair and involve another woman. These will result in banning, whether you're joking or not. I am having a mistress whom I love alot and she knows I love my wife and children. She knew that you were a new father.
I been separated from my wife of 10 years for 9 months now. Theres a reason why I said forever to her. It will never be right because you did not make it right with your wife, and you did not invest the time in your marriage that you are willing to invest in this new toy. In the midst of what, in hindsight, could have been a mental breakdown, I left my wife. Love,excitement,adventure,fun,mystery,intrique,newness, unpredictibility, passion, laughter, romance, respect, affection, admiration, attention, sex, desire, and appreciation are unfortunately elements that have a tendency to dwindle in long term relationships. You and your lover are not at your best with each other as per when you two were sneaking around. What a load of drama.